HNT: HNT 5th Birthday...

The theme to celebrate HNT's 5th birthday was to find your first or earliest you could find, HNT picture and post it up along with a recreation of that picture. For me, this wasn't so hard since I have only been participating in HNT's for 33 weeks. But in saying that, that first picture I used was actually taken in 2007! Its a picture I used to use as my profile picture on AFF. I think I managed to find nearly everything to duplicate the picture except for the lingerie...

Go check out O's to see who else is playing along this week.

HNT: My view...

As I slide my jeans over my hips, this is my view....I am thinking of you and of what we are about to do....

Happy HNT all! Now go and check out O's to see who else is playing along this week, Oooh and I heard he has the most fab MG this week :)

A fuck and nothing but a fuck?

I got a message on AFF today (yes I know, the place is like a train wreck for me, can't keep away from it!) from a guy and its pretty much said this...."I am in a flat marriage and I am not looking to change my situation at the moment. I am looking for 'no strings' kind of arrangement" Now, for some reason, this message annoyed me today more than it does on any other day and whilst I didn't reply to him, I have a couple of things to say about this....


For a start, BULLSHIT! Your trying to tell me that your going to spend the next 40 years of your life married to a woman that is not interested in or doesn't want to fuck you. Well, a big fat hairy bollocks to that! If you don't want to change your situation, why is it your messaging me for sex, you do indeed want change. You want sex, that is change. If you truly do not want change, get rid of your profile and sit at home having a quick wank in the loo occasionally, that is not changing your situation.


Secondly...'no strings' ? I have issues with this statement. Big ones. The only 'no strings' fuck that exists in this world is one you pay for. That's right, paying for sex will guarantee that there are no strings....you want her body/orifices, she wants your cash. Its a simple, straight up business transaction. I mean, seriously, do you really think you are going to find a woman out there that is going to whore herself to you for free? You may be lucky enough to find that, but most women have a bit more self respect than that, so there will be strings and there will be expectations.


Which leads me to wonder, if a man doesn't want to go to the ATM and get some cash out to buy a 'no strings' fuck, why are they looking for sex on these sites? There is no doubt a proportion of men that are simply too cheap to pay for it....but then why shell out for a membership on a 'adult dating website'?? Or are men maybe looking for something that is a bit more than just sex?


There is a saying that goes 'Women need to feel loved to have sex, men need to have sex to feel loved' or something along those lines. So are these men looking for that little bit more that goes with sex? Perhaps a bit of intimacy, physical affection, touching, wanting to be desired and wanted by someone? I get the 'no strings' aspect of not wanting a relationship/stalker/emotional commitment. But is all simply about the fuck?


So I am going to put this question out there....For all you guys out there, does looking for 'no strings' sex mean:

• I am too cheap to pay for sex?
• I want good sex with someone and I can give/receive physical affection with but I don't want to commit myself to?
• Its just sex, I am sick of wanking and I really don't want or need the cuddles?

Stockings...

The only thing I love about winter....stockings! Fabulous for keeping your legs warm, making you feel as sexy as hell and for those moments when you need to tie someone up...Oh what? like you all never think about doing that :)

Now head on over to O's and see who else is playing along this week!

I have been a bad, bad blogger lately, no HNT last week and too long since my last decent post. Life, well mainly work seems to be getting in the way at the moment. But I promise and update...soon! And it looks like I will be spending what is going to turn out to be a wet weekend catching up some blog reading.